Parent
Effectiveness
Training
Active Listening (created by Dr. Carl Rogers), I-Messages, Communication Roadblocks (created by Dr. Gordon) are getting more and more attention nowadays as we are trying to find ways to communicate with our loved ones in peaceful and respectful ways. Parent Effectiveness Training (P.E.T.) is a pioneering program that has helped millions of parents around the world. P.E.T. was developed in 1962 by Dr. Thomas Gordon who has been nominated three times for a Nobel Peace Prize with his work in conflict resolution. There are over 40 countries where the P.E.T. is being taught today and Dr.Gordon’s book has been translated into 32 languages.
P.E.T. Interactive ZOOM Course WINTER 2023. You can secure your spot and sign up here.
Gordon once said that “Parents are blamed but not trained” – and now is the time to change that! Free your Family from fear, conflict, and stress. Create a Family filled with love, acceptance, and peace.
What is the online P.E.T. course with Natalie?
Weekly Course Subjects:
Parent Effectiveness Training
1. Brief origins of P.E.T.; Values and the Behavior Window – so you will know who is the true owner of an occurred problem.
2. Learning Helping Skills and Avoiding Communication Roadblocks – so you can really listen to your children when they have problems and support them in solving their own difficulties.
3. Active Listening – so you can really understand your child and see the bigger picture.
4. Preventing Problems and Conflicts – so you can effectively communicate with respect.
5. Confronting Unacceptable Behaviors – so you can assertively communicate so that kids can willingly change their unacceptable behavior to help you meet your own needs.
6. Resolving Conflicts – so you can learn about conflict resolution.
7. Applying Method III – so you can learn how to solve conflicts so that nobody loses and everyone feels respected.
8. Resolving Value Conflicts – so you can understand a child’s autonomy.
COST:
P.E.T. Class on ZOOM cost $250 for individuals PLUS a $45 materials fee per person. The materials fee of $45 is paid up front and guarantees your spot (max 12 ppl in a group). You will get the workbook and the textbook via ground mail after successful payment. The tuition ($250) is due after the first class, that way you can decide if you would like to continue the course. 🙂
Start your Family journey to happiness through understanding now! Secure your spot* and be part of the P.E.T. supporting Family! Then continue your journey with people like you and join our Private Support Facebook Graduate group!
Learn about the stories of our graduated Parents and see if this is something for you!
*Please take into consideration that space is limited due to the high quality of meetings for each group member. First bought first take.
P.E.T. provides a stable conceptual framework, gives you tools and skills, and reveals to you the deep secrets of child development – thanks to which you will be ready to apply the appropriate approach in response that will build and support the healthy development of a responsible, independent, and respectful child.
What my Students said our meetings did for them:
- In our home there is no more power use. We consider everyones needs at the same level. We are partners and I feel so free and I’ve also got back my “me time” too!
- Finally my kids are excited to have a “family time” together again! Before we could never get to an agreement that would satisfy each persom at the same time! Today we are happily enjoying our own company of 5 and the kids can’t wait for it!
- I’m impressed with my two girls becoming so mature and aware of their own feelings and needs that I had no idea about before!
- My teenage started to open herself to me after a totally silent period of couple of years!
- It worked right away -after only the second meeting! – my 2 year old who had an every day morning meltdown – calmed down right away and got ready to school!
- I used the active listening skill and my child who doesn’t speak yet – nestled up to me like never before! We made this special connection, he felt my suport and I know at this moment that his hug was a confirmation of feeling understood, accepted and loved.
- My 8 year old talks to me about her struggles and then she is proudly informing me of how she is going to handle it! Before I would just tell her what to do next. I feel so proud and calm seeing her independency!
- I’m excited about P.E.T. because I’m already making deeper and stronger connections with my kids and my wife! I wish I knew about it faster!
- My son came to my to consult with his problems! I couldn’t believe it!
- I don’t need to remind my family to keep doing their chores anymore! Even the screen time isn’t a big problem anymore!
- The kids at school call me: “The teacher who never yells.” I’m eager to keep on using the skills!
To better understand the Parent Effectiveness Training Model:
This book and course offer a philosophy and set of communication and conflict resolution skills for helping parents develop and maintain a democratic, mutually satisfying relationships with their children and with each other. The conceptual model is the Behavior Window, a framework that Dr. Gordon developed for determining who owns the problem. Parents learn to use this window to help them to decide which skill to use depending on whose problem it is. There is heavy emphasis on learning the communication and conflict resolution skills so they can be used right away, both at home and in all relationships.
To organize your thoughts you can get this free graphic that will help you visualize the P.E.T. Model. Here’s also P.E.T. and screen time, and more about children and conflict. For more – go to Resources for Parents.
Main Concepts and Skills that you will find in P.E.T. Model:
1. Three types of parenting styles: Authoritarian, Permissive, Democratic
2. Focus is on teaching the Democratic style
3. No use of parental power; needs of both parent and child important; conflicts solved so both get their needs met
4. Training is needed to learn any new skill
5. Behavior Window provides a framework for dealing with all behaviors
6. Problem Ownership
7. Communication and conflict resolution skills to handle any relationship problem
8. Acceptance of child as s/he is
9. Acceptance demonstrated through Active Listening
10. 12 Communication Roadblocks
11. “Misbehavior” is the language of power
12. Authentic, congruent expression of true feelings without blame
13. Avoidance of labels and judgments
14. Anger and what’s beneath it
15. I-Messages vs. You-Messages
16. Shifting gears to deal with resistance to I-Message
17. Modifying the physical environment to prevent problems and conflicts
18. Harmful effects of both rewards and punishments, including logical consequences and time-out
19. Disadvantages of both strict and permissive parenting styles
20. Win-lose conflict resolution methods as compared with the No-Lose Method
21. Parents use influence, not control
22. Family rule-setting; Principle of Participation
23. Conflicts resolved so that the needs of both parent and child are important and both are satisfied with the solution; no one loses
24. How to handle values differences through modeling, consulting, I-Messages.
Please contact me if you have any questions – I’m happy to chat with you. If you are feeling ready to start the journey of changes – Get onboard now and secure your spot! I can’t wait to see you there! 🙂